Wednesday, 30 March 2011

My Mother Lazarus

I keep dreaming of my mum. Her being slowly comes back into her lifeless body and her eyes gently open. I'm staring at her in amazement. A miracle has occurred!
"Hi mumma" I chirp like a little girl in love.
"Hi baby" she says with such life and affection for me as she always has.
I tell her how I knew she would come back, that I knew she was coming back to visit even if she can't stay. She smiles and we laugh at the infinite possibilities we are both now fully awake to. One can die and return to their body weeks after and live in this world once again, like they never left. Magic is real!

Mumma has such a spark in her that I haven't seen for some time, even before she left her body. It's as if her body is healed and her passion for life revived. She's impatient, she wants to test out her new old body. She's been floating around disembodied for over a month now, which feels like nothing else, weightless and pure, but now back in a pain free body she is excited to play. I warn her to take it easy, it may take a little getting used to. Like when a baby begins to walk, working out their limbs and the laws of gravity. She steadily props herself up and lets her legs hang over the hospital bed. Mum smiles at me, proudly and warmly. With delicacy and precision one by one she plants her feet on the floor. Then with all the strength she can muster she stands up.

It's somewhere around here that I realise I'm dreaming and so everything that follows is not as I hoped. Mum's form changes into a young woman, then a tall man. And the being inside is different too, I realise later on. Then I remember we had mum cremated so it surely would be a miracle if she could come back to her body. All the pieces of dust and ash coming back together from the wind and soil to reform my beautiful mother, Therese. What a sight that would be. What a glorious possibility. And again I remember the conversation mum and I had before she went into the coma. Our last amazing chat.

It was her choice to leave. She didn't commit suicide or request euthanasia, she never said she wanted to die, but in our last conversation I facilitated her into knowing that her life is her own and it is her divine right to be kind to herself and put herself first. Something she had rarely done. She gave and gave and cared and cared and loved and loved. But it was foreign to her to give that gift to herself. I'm so so happy that she chose for her, the kindest and lightest choice she knew.

I wonder if we could all be kind to ourselves for a change. And choose what is most expansive and loving for our being. Even for today.

I'm learning to speak to my mum and listen for her still soft voice in ways that I haven't had to before. Even if it is in a dream for a short time that I get to see her. I'm grateful. She is my angel. My soul sister. My Mother.

R.I.P Therese Mary Burstow
20/05/1956- 19/02/2011

1 comment:

  1. There is a truth and depth to your writing. The beauty and light you display in your words brings peace to the world. Thankyou for being incredibly brave and courageous and for being willing to look beyond. Grattitude xx